What is coaching? How do you do it? How does it look like? What is its result? What happens after it? These are just some of the questions I hear during my first session with my clients.
What is coaching?
Coaching is a process that aims to improve person’s performance results and focuses on the ‘here and now’.
In essence coaching:
- helps a person to change in the way they wish and helps them to go in the direction they want to go,
- supports a person at every level in becoming who they want to be,
- builds awareness empowers choice and leads to change.
Each session begins with a QUESTION or a GOAL assigned to it. It’s like a contract that both parties sign and agree to follow by. During the session, it is often returned to the QUESTION more than once.
Why is it so important to define the QUESTION? It’s like a northern star – shows the direction and allows you to find your way back if you move away to another question or topic.
Only your thoughts
One of the essential principles of coaching is that each client is unique, as is their path event to the same success. For Paul, it may be one, and for Emily, it may be completely different. It may be that Paul’s path is not even acceptable for Emily.
Therefore, during coaching sessions, the coach does not pass any of his thoughts to the client – whether he has answered the same question himself, achieved the same goal or not (including his colleagues, friends, acquaintances or relatives).
We can reach Rome in thousands of different ways, starting a journey from millions of different places.
What is coaching and what is not
Coaching is NOT a CONSULTATION
If during coaching, a coach does not give you any of his thoughts, then in the consultation it is quite the opposite – client receives a very specific answers and ways to his questions and often, it does not matter at all whether it is acceptable or not to him. We will certainly not find this in coaching.
Coaching also is NOT a PSYCHOTHERAPY
Even though psychotherapy and coaching have some things in common, its not the same.
In both sessions, goals are achieved when a client is asked questions and a sincere and friendly connection is established. Most of the similarities end here. Psychotherapy uses the events and experiences of the past to “fix – or heal” today, and in coaching – we use today to create and build tomorrow.
Coaching is freeing your internal potential.
Much like in the gym – the person doing the weights and other exercises is responsible for most of the results, so is coaching – which is equal to the training of your internal potential. Coach’es responsibility is to create the environment for the potential to be released.
As it is required by the Code of Ethics of the International Coaching Federation (ICF), which states that “the content of a coaching session must be subject to the highest standards of confidentiality”. Therefore, everything you discuss with a coach will remain between the two of you.